Principles of Good Parenting

parentingIt is the aspiration of every parent to bring up their child in the best way so that they actually mature into a responsible and well-mannered individual. Unfortunately, every child is different and perceptions of good parenting different from one individual to another. There are however certain standard principles that are considered the best for people who want to practice good parenting.

1.       Be involved.

Many parents in today’s society have become so busy that they work harder at making money to provide for their children and forget to establish an actual relationship with the same children. Involvement in your child’s life is an essential aspect of bringing them up to become healthy and mature persons as it creates a sense of security for them. However, to be involved will require full commitment and a lot of sacrifice on your part as a parent. Whether becoming involved will entail helping them with homework or playing games with them, you ought to fully be involved in your child’s life.

2.       Practice what you preach.

Many parents seem unaware of the impact of their behaviors on their children. Children are so impressionable that they tend to copy most of the things they observe their parents doing. As opposed to constantly telling your child what to do, you can start by leading them by example as this is more effective.

3.       Set boundaries and rules.

Some parents fear to say “no” to their children because they feel that this might hurt or disappoint them. If you truly love your child, you have to set boundaries and regulations that govern your relationship as well as their lives in general. It is essential to teach your child that every action they take has a consequence, and this can be good or negative depending on the choices that they make.

4.       Nurture independence.

childs behaviorIt is human nature to desire control and many children reach a point when they want to be independent. Since your child will not be under your care forever, you must raise them to be independent. This may involve letting go and avoiding micromanaging them. For instance, if they learn to do something new, you should encourage them to do it even better on their own without your opinions.

5.       Adapt to your child’s changes.

It is highly unlikely that your child will remain the same for a long time. In fact, children keep changing at different stages of their lives. As a parent, you ought to adapt to these changes and try to understand their new personalities instead of resisting these changes.

6.       Be respectful.

Treating your child with respect is very important as it determines whether they will treat other people respectfully. Regardless of how old your child is, you must treat them with the utmost respect, and this should be clear in the manner you talk to them and how you act in their presence.

7.       Consistency is key.

Consistency regarding rules and regulations set as well as routines undertaken is very important for children during their growth stages. It helps to nurture discipline and self-control since the child knows what is expected of them. If you keep changing the rules, you will end up confusing the child.

Parenting is not easy but for parents who follow the above principles, things can be made more manageable. There are times you will fail as a parent but you ought to encourage yourself instead of entertaining “I’m a bad parent” thoughts.